On Lailatul Qadar(The night full of blessings) our Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) teaches us dua as mentioned in Hadith Reference: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3513 .

Hazrat Aisha reported: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, if I know which night is the Night of Decree, what should I say during it?” The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said,

اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّكَ عُفُوٌّ كَرِيمٌ تُحِبُّ الْعَفْوَ فَاعْفُ عَنِّي

“Say: O Allah, you are pardoning and generous. You love to forgive, so forgive me.”

Allah Almighty emphasizes on forgiveness. In our Holy Quran, He says more than 92 times to rujuh and seek the forgiveness from Allah.

Have you noticed why this is so?. Because forgiveness give pleasure and chances to become better. No one is perfect. Human is idol of mistakes.

Many people are suffering from depression, anxiety, stress and blood pressure. Why?. Did you notice?

Because they don’t forget and forgive the mistakes and misbehaves of others. We all expect from Allah that He Almighty will forgive us but we don’t forgive His people. Did you notice?. If its Allah ‘s attribute to forgive His people then He likes and wants this attribute in His people also.

We suffer from depression because we obsessed our mind in small small things. Small misunderstandings sticks in our minds. We don’t let the things go. We just don’t want to move forward. We burn our self in the fire of revenge, then how we can get peace of mind and soul?.

Dr .Sharafat Ali said: If we handle the object of 5-10 grams weight constantly, we can’t carry it more than 5- 10 mins. Our hand will become fatigue and tired. Similarly, we can’t handle burdens of tensions in our minds. It will become negative, tired and will not work properly. This is the reason why people are suffering from anxiety and depression.

For example: If someone got himself cheated in any relationship. He start blaming himself that i am not good enough to provide love and trust. I am useless.Similarly, If he could’not find good job then he thought that i am not good enough. I cant took the burden of my expense.etc etc. Thus this all negativity leads him to depression and depression leads to death.

Instead of that, if he thinks that Alhamdulillah Allah protect me from that person who is not fare with me and Allah will provide me someone more sincere who will value me. Then instead of become depressed he would become happy of that. Similarly, in case of job, if he is unable to find job in a company he is interested then he should think that Allah must have much more better for him than that. If he closes one door for some reason we don’t know then he opens 100 more doors of success for you.

Question is how to get free from depression and anxiety? The answer is very easy, by letting things go. Seek forgiveness from Allah, forgive people, let the things go and believe in Allah.

Try to Teach your self to say SORRY. Try to admit your mistakes. By saying sorry half of anxiety finished. Our Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W) said in Hadith reference 1889 Mishkat Al Masabeeh:

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ مَا نَقَصَتْ صَدَقَةٌ مِنْ مَالٍ وَمَا زَادَ اللَّهُ عَبْدًا بِعَفْوٍ

إِلاَّ عِزًّا وَمَا تَوَاضَعَ أَحَدٌ لِلَّهِ إِلاَّ رَفَعَهُ اللَّهُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏

“Charity does not in any way decrease the wealth and the servant who forgives Allah adds to his respect, and the one who shows humility Allah elevates him in the estimation (of the people).”

In Europe, people start forgiveness therapy in schools. They teach their children to let the things go. Sound mind have sound body. Think positive. Say sorry to solve the matters.

Man is a social human being. He can’t live alone. So, for happy relationships you have to forgive people. Every action has its reaction. If you slap someone he will slap you. If you give love you will find love. Always try to water the plant of love. Try to ignore bad things of people. No one is perfect. Even a rose contains thorns in its stem.

I want to quote one case from Islamic history here. Once the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was sitting with some of his Sahabah when he said as was revealed to him:

“A man from Jannah (Paradise) will show up now.”

Soon a man from Ansaar showed up. The next day it happened again. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said:

“A man from Jannah will show up now.” And the same person showed up. On the third day, it happened again and the same Ansaar showed up when the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) had predicted that a man from Jannah will show up. Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (RA) was there among the sahabah all three days. He become so much curious and he went up to the man and said,

“I have had a dispute with my father and have promised that I will not go back home for three days. Would you let me stay with you for three days?”

The man agreed to have him as a guest for three days.

Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas was a religious man. He fasted regularly and finished Quran in three nights in prayer. He predicted that, surely the man must be praying all night and fasting every day, that is why he has been chosen among the people of Jannah. At night he expected his host to stand in prayer the whole night, but the host only offered the obligatory prayers and went to sleep. In the morning, Abdullah bin Amr ul Aas (RA) expected him to fast, but the host had breakfast after the Fajr prayers. Abullah bin Amr ul Aas(RA) thought that his host might not be feeling well today and maybe tomorrow he would do as Abdullah was expecting.

But, the host followed the same routine all three nights. On the third day, Abdullah told him the truth and said that he did not have any fight with his father. He had only said that to be with him so that he could see what was so special about him that made him one of the people of Jannah.

The man told him there was nothing special about him. He always did as Abdullah had seen for himself. Disappointed, Abdullah started to leave. The man called him back and said “There was nothing unique about me except that when i went to bed each day, i made sure there was no feeling of hatred or jealousy in my heart for any Muslim.”

Abdullah said to him; “Nothing made you reach that rank except this. And not all of us are able to do so.”

Do you realize how important it is for a Muslim to get rid of all the negative feelings of hatred and jealousy. So, please make your life easy. Don’t mess yourself. Live happy healthy lovely and easy life.